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You are visiting the Dream Pages on The New Path website. Your Dream Questions... This page has
been put together with just a small sample of the many questions that I have
been asked. A BIG thank you to everyone who has
taken the time to write to me.
“I looked in a
book of dream analysis and read that being chased is a sign that one will have
to work hard, but will be successful eventually. Is this true? And, can
dreams mean something completely different if your culture and background is
different?” My answer: To
dream of being chased is very common and can have a variety of explanations
personal to the dreamer. Being chased can perhaps represent feeling a
situation is getting the better of us, but can also represent the need
to escape from something which may be taking over our lives. It's also
important to consider who is being chased and who is doing the chasing, for
example in many people's dreams they do not know who they are being chased
by, but simply know they are trying to get away. With
regards to the cultural background, from my experience we are all different; so in the same way that
two people with the same
backgrounds can have completely different interpretations of their dreams,
people with different backgrounds will too; not so much because their
backgrounds are different, but because we are all individual. Saying that, I feel it is really only
English culture that tends to see their dreams as insignificant; many other
cultures from Aborigines (and their belief of the Alchera) to Native
Americans (and their dream catchers) see dreams - and their meanings - as an
essential part of daily life.
Your question: Precognitive Dreams I dream about
long lost friends and relatives only to see them or hear from them that day. This
has happened to me on several occasions and it occurred that it is more than
mere coincidence. Are there any other cases and is there any science behind
it? My answer: A
study carried out in 1980, showed that 42% of people felt they'd had at least
one dream which then came true, so precognition through dreaming is more
common than people may think. I, myself, have experienced this.
Some people say that they simply 'know' that their dreams are precognitive;
others say it's like watching a movie. Keeping a dream diary is a good
way of recording your dreams and you may find that they are precognitive more
often than you thought; you may also notice patterns in your dreaming, for
example that the precognition occurs in a pattern, (e.g. the lunar cycle or
having eaten a particular food). There have been attempts and studies
to explore the science behind precognitive dreaming but because, often, the
dreamer can not control it, they have not been able to ‘come up with the
goods’ on demand. However, precognitive
dreaming is something which continues to baffle scientists to this day.
I
always have dreams that am jumping of a wall but it never ends. What does this
mean? My answer: To
dream of falling can be quite common and can represent being or feeling out
of control, especially if you're free falling in the way you've
described. However, the fact that you consciously chose to jump off the
wall in the dream, could represent that you are aware of a decision that
needs to be made. Perhaps there is a
choice which can be made freely to see what happens, a bit like a leap of
faith. I dream about losing things. What could be behind this dream? My
answer: If the objects that you lose in the dream
are not specific then this could represent an overall fear of loss that you
have in waking life, which has manifested in your dreams. You may have suffered a bereavement and
this could be how it’s manifested in your dreams. However, to dream of losing your handbag or
your wallet, for example, could represent a financial situation with which
you need to keep an eye on.
I am constantly having dreams about my partner
having affairs with several different women, none of whom I know. Does this mean he is having an affair? My
answer: A professional
dream analyst will never state definitively that a dream is precognitive –
this is for the dreamer to decide based on their own information and
instincts. That said, dreaming of
affairs is quite common and can represent our personal insecurities, not
always for the relationship we're in, but perhaps lack of confidence we have
in ourselves. Perhaps you worry you’re
not meeting other people's expectations or feel there should be more
excitement in your life (that you could/should be trying something
different).
I have dreamt of someone I loved who has
passed away, does this mean they have visited me from the other side? My
answer: From a symbolic point of view, dreaming of a
lost loved one could represent the feelings of loss which have manifested
because you miss the person when you are awake. There could also be similarities of your
past when the person in the dream was alive, which are relevant to your
present situation, (emotionally, physically, financially and so on) which has
then manifested in your dreams as a message for you to acknowledge. However, I am a great believer that
visitations can happen through dreams because quite simply, with dreaming I
believe almost anything is possible!
At the end of the day, we are in an altered state of consciousness and
some cultures believe this is a way to communicate with the dead to this day. I have spoken with people who pick up the
phone in their dreams and communicate with a deceased loved one, as if they
are still alive today. There does seem to be one thing which stands
out in ‘visitation’ dreams. Many
people who have been visited by a deceased loved one state, that when they wake
up they are filled with an incredible feeling of peace - as if something very special has just happened. Several people I've spoken with mention
this and these dreams 'stand out' from other dreams in which their deceased
loved ones may have featured.
Remember, if in the dream the loved one is acting out of character, or
is being unkind and hurtful in any way, it is unlikely this dream is a
visitation but perhaps a representation of another message within the dream.
What is a dream
called when you know you are dreaming and you can do whatever you want? My
answer: A
dream where you become aware of the fact you are dreaming is usually called a
Lucid Dream. I have heard many different accounts of people who have
experienced this, including people who actively engage in lucid dreaming,
using their dreams to ‘play out’ their part in a meeting the next day or to
see what it would be like to walk through walls! I also have a friend who, when he’s
dreaming carries a newspaper under his arm.
If ever he doesn’t like the way the dream is going, he simply removes
the newspaper from under his arm and begins to read it – this is his ‘exit’
from the dream and he wakes up. Lucid
dreaming can take time and practice though, so don’t be disappointed if you
don’t have lucid dreams as often as you’d like or have tried to become lucid
but have been unsuccessful. Don’t
forget that during lucid dreaming you’re actively encouraging the mind to
think and ‘do’ instead of letting it go where it wants to in a dream. Your
dreams can be useful to you, even without telling them how you want them to
end.
Your
question: Getting married I had a dream last night that I was getting married
what does that mean? My answer: To dream of getting married can have several
meanings, personal to the dreamer. For example, if you are in the
process of planning a wedding or have been thinking (or hoping) to get
married, this would affect the interpretation. However, marriage can
also represent a union between two parts of our lives (e.g.
personal/social) or even two parts of our personality; you may have been
undecided about a particular area of your life or have been in 'two minds'
about something, but these plans are now coming together. I am always dreaming that I am going to the toilet – can you explain
that? My answer When
dreaming about toilets, there are a few things to consider in particular
where the toilet is and whether or not it's private. A common toilet
dream seems to be where there are no walls to the cubicle and the dreamer
feels very 'exposed'. Toilets can therefore relate to a particular
emotion or situation which we may need to talk about, but in doing so may
leave us feeling vulnerable to what the consequences of doing so may
be. Believe it or not, whether you flush the toilet (or not) can also
affect the interpretation. Perhaps in the dream the dreamer is trying
to flush it, but despite their best efforts are unable to. This could
represent a desire or need to try to 'get rid' of the problem, but the
reality being that it's not going to go away easily. Dreaming of
toilets in a school is also common, and this could relate to a subject the
dreamer may need to learn from in order to move forward. It’s also worth pointing out, though, that
dreaming of going to the toilet may be a physiological need – so, just as you
may dream you’re having a drink when you’re thirsty, you may dream you’re
going to the toilet when you really need the loo! I have heard that
pregnancy means news of a death. Is
this true? My answer Pregnancy
dreams are actually quite common, even men dream of being pregnant.
Many people used to consider dreaming of being pregnant to be a warning of
death in the family. However, pregnancy often represents the birth of
new ideas, new projects and creative changes which may be ahead. You
might be recognising changes within yourself, or your potential in a
particular area although it's important to note that, like a pregnancy, it
might take some time for the idea or 'project' to come to fruition. To
dream of someone else being pregnant, whilst in some case predictive, can
suggest that perhaps we are aware of ourselves taking on some new qualities,
which we might identify with in that person. For men, dreaming of being
pregnant can be an acknowledgement to take responsibility for a particular
area of their life (although this would depend on how they view
pregnancy). Overall, though, pregnancy will often depict that the transition
will be gradual and that patience is required for the idea or project to grow
at a natural pace. I keep having the most horrendous nightmares, I wake up
sweating and my heart is pounding.
Often the content is quite graphic.
Can you help? My
answer: The interpretation for nightmares can vary
depending on the personal circumstances of the dreamer. Lack of sleep, change in diet and stress can
all cause bad dreams and many people feel nervous about the content, when
they wake up. Remember: Dreams are
your friends. Many dreams are
symbolic; messages sent from another place (wherever that may be) to draw
attention to a situation that, in order for us to live healthy, balanced
lives, we may need to address. There may be unresolved issues surrounding
your current circumstances or those from the past which you may need to address
personally (e.g. through personal counselling) and your dreams may be a
manifestation of that. Sometimes the reason the content is so graphic or
unsettling is simply to get our attention so that we take steps to
acknowledge the 'problem'; a bit like turning the volume up until somebody
realises they're listening to the music.
Sometimes seeking an interpretation for the dream can help deciphering
the message and this, in itself, may be enough to stop the recurring
dreams. It's important to remember
that the people and places in your nightmares are not ‘real’ (even if they
look like people you know) but images created in a dream to represent a
message to get your attention; none of this content necessarily means that
these dreams are going to happen or what you’re ‘really’ thinking. However, if you are worried, it's worth
seeking the advice of someone who can offer you that therapeutic help,
confidentially to put your mind at rest.
Your question: Death of a child or loved one "I have
dreamt that my child dies in a dream. Does this mean it's going to
happen?” My
answer: It can be very common to dream about losing people that we love,
put simply because we love
them. We may fear their loss and this manifests in our dreams.
However, death can also represent change and so you may have been noticing
changes in the person that you have dreamt has died. To dream of losing children is common
at particular stages of their lives, often around the ages of 2-3, 6-7 and
11-13. This is perhaps, because at these stages we are noticing a
change in our little ones, in that they're not our little ones anymore!
:o) So, at the age of toddler we begin to recognise they are no longer
babies, at the age of 6-7 we are seeing the first real signs of independence
(e.g. wanting to stay over at a friends house or buy things we may not
approve of!), and at the age of puberty they are in that ‘in between phase’
of not being a child anymore and not being an adult either. So the death in the dream, may actually
represent their transition in to different life stages and our reaction to
these changes; how we once viewed them, to how they now are.
Your question:
Favourite Dreams What are your
favorite types of dreams? My
answer: All
types of dreams are my favourite – I love chatting with people about
their dreams and exploring them - it's a subject I absolutely love :o) Remember, If you
can’t see the answer to your question here drop me an email. I’ll reply to you, aiming to publish your
question and my answer here or in a future article. (If you’d prefer your question not to be used
in this way, just mention this in your email). In the meantime, thank you so much to
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